The Signs Of Parental Alienation Syndrome

At Shah & Kishore, we have witnessed how emotionally difficult it can be when a once-strong parent-child relationship becomes strained after separation or divorce. Sometimes, those shifts in connection go far beyond typical adjustment challenges. What many of our clients describe is something deeper—something we recognize as signs of parental alienation. When a child suddenly starts rejecting one parent without a reasonable cause, there is more going on beneath the surface.

Parental alienation syndrome can be incredibly harmful, not only to the alienated parent but also to the child. Parental alienation syndrome happens gradually and can look like common behavioral changes at first. That’s why it’s so important to understand the signs early. When we’re working with parents who suspect this is happening, we always encourage close attention to patterns, not just isolated incidents. Protecting the child’s emotional well-being and preserving the parent-child bond is always our priority.

Understanding What Parental Alienation Looks Like

Parental alienation happens when one parent, intentionally or not, influences a child to fear or reject the other parent. Over time, the child begins to adopt the negative views of the other parent. Parental alienation is not just a one-time disagreement or occasional frustration. Parental alienation is an ongoing breakdown of a healthy relationship, often without a clear or justified reason.

We’ve seen children who once loved spending time with a parent suddenly refuse to visit, say harsh things that sound rehearsed, or act fearful without any past history of concern. These aren’t feelings that typically come out of nowhere. The more we listen to our clients, the more we see that these shifts often stem from manipulation or emotional pressure behind the scenes.

Common Signs We Watch For In Children

The signs of parental alienation will vary based on the age of the child and the specific family dynamic. However, there are common characteristics that we have seen again and again.

Children experiencing alienation may:

• Speak negatively about the other parent in language that sounds beyond their age
• Strongly resist or refuse visits without clear justification
• Show unwavering support for one parent while vilifying the other
• Use phrases or accusations that appear scripted or out of character
• Insist their feelings are entirely their own, even when asked gently
• Reject extended family from the other parent’s side

These are behaviors we hear about during routine check-ins or while reviewing co-parenting challenges. When these signs begin to appear consistently, it becomes important to assess the bigger picture.

Behaviors Often Observed In The Other Parent

Parental alienation is not always intentional. In many cases, certain actions by a parent can set the stage for it to develop. The alienating parent may:

• Constantly criticize or belittle the other parent in front of the child
• Share inappropriate details about the separation or legal matters
• Interfere with communication, such as blocking texts or calls
• Encourage the child to take sides
• Act as if the other parent doesn’t matter

We often ask our clients to keep a journal of interactions, missed communications, or unusual comments from the child. These patterns can help our attorney see whether the child’s views are being shaped by someone else’s influence.

The Emotional Toll On The Alienated Parent

We have witnessed parents go through heartbreak when they’re treated like a stranger by their own child. The emotional toll is significant. Some feel helpless or confused. Others blame themselves, even though the shift is happening through no fault of their own. We make it clear to our clients: this is not your failure. Parental alienation can happen slowly, and it’s often hard to identify until it’s well underway.

When we work with clients going through this, we focus on protecting their bond with their child in any way we can—whether through communication tools, professional support, or structured parenting time.

Why Early Awareness Matters

Parental alienation can get worse over time if left unaddressed. The longer a child goes without meaningful contact or support for a balanced relationship, the more deeply rooted the alienation can become. We encourage clients to speak up when they start noticing changes, even small ones.

Sometimes what looks like alienation may be something else entirely. But identifying the cause early gives us more options to intervene and support both the child and the parent. We’ve worked with counselors, co-parenting specialists, and reunification professionals to help families rebuild healthy dynamics.

Supporting Healthy Parent-Child Relationships

We always tell our clients that a child deserves the love and support of both parents. Even when a marriage ends, the parental role continues. A balanced, respectful co-parenting relationship can help reduce conflict and give children the stability they need.

If you’re feeling pushed out of your child’s life, don’t wait until the distance becomes permanent. We are here to listen, to understand, and to support your relationship with your child.

FAQs About Parental Alienation Syndrome

What Should I Do If My Child Refuses To Spend Time With Me?

Start by listening closely and documenting the behavior. Try to avoid reacting emotionally in front of your child. Note specific dates, statements, and any communication issues you experience. If the behavior continues, speak with a professional about your concerns. A therapist or family counselor may be able to evaluate the situation and provide insight into what may be influencing your child.

Can A Child Be Influenced Without Realizing It?

Yes. Children are impressionable, and they often pick up on the emotions and attitudes of the

adults around them. They may not realize they are repeating what they’ve heard or that they’re being influenced by subtle pressure. That’s part of what makes parental alienation so difficult, it can look like the child’s own opinion when it’s not.

Is Parental Alienation Always Intentional?

No. While some parents may deliberately try to alienate the other, others may not recognize how their behavior is affecting the child. Sharing negative stories, venting frustrations in front of the child, or acting indifferent toward parenting time can all contribute to alienation without conscious intent.

What Are The Long-Term Effects Of Parental Alienation On Children?

Children who experience parental alienation may struggle with self-esteem, emotional regulation, and forming healthy relationships later in life. They may feel guilt, confusion, or unresolved loyalty conflicts. We encourage early intervention and open communication to help children process their emotions in a healthy, supportive environment.

Can Counseling Help With Parental Alienation?

Yes. Individual and family counseling can provide a neutral space for children to express themselves and for parents to better understand the dynamics at play. Reunification therapy, in particular, is often helpful when a child resists contact with one parent. We often refer families to trusted professionals who focus on restoring parent-child relationships.

How Can I Take Care Of Myself If I’m Being Rejected By My Child?

Parental alienation is emotionally painful. We encourage our clients to seek support from therapists, close friends, or support groups. Taking care of your emotional health will also help you be more resilient and centered as you work to maintain your connection with your child.

Call Shah & Kishore To Discuss Concerns About Parental Alienation

If you’re worried that something is interfering with your bond with your child, you’re not alone. At Shah & Kishore, we listen, we support, and we help you take steps toward healing that relationship. If you believe parental alienation may be affecting your relationship with your child, we want to help.

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