When Is the Right Time to Divorce?
Deciding whether or not your marriage is over is never an easy choice to make, but for some, it is a necessary one. Here are some common signs that you could be ready to move on to the next phase of your life and file for divorce.
1) You are fighting a lot.
Fights are a natural part of a relationship and in normal doses, arguments are even a sign that your relationship is healthy. However, when those fights become too frequent or too intense, that could be a sign that trouble is near. When fights become more about placing blame on one another and “winning” the argument, many experts believe that is a red flag. Another red flag during arguments is if you find yourself looking to provoke your spouse, purposefully starting arguments.
2) You react poorly to seeing your spouse
If you consistently have a negative reaction to seeing your spouse walk in the room, that is a sign that your marriage is on troublesome waters. If seeing your spouse regularly doesn’t bring you joy, that could be your subconscious letting you know that it’s time to let go of the marriage.
3) You stop thinking of each other as a unit.
Marriage is all about teamwork and equal partnership. If you consistently find yourself thinking in terms of “I” instead of “we,” that could be an indicator that you and your spouse are drifting apart.
4) Your spouse stops feeling like a safe space.
When you have a bad day or experience some troubling news, who do you go to? When something wonderful happens, do you tell your spouse first? Do you want to start conversations with them without something prompting one? These could all be good indicators of whether or not a divorce is a reasonable option. Your partner should be the first person you go to when you experience good news or bad news. They should be someone you want to talk about everything with –even the mundane topics. If you find yourself constantly turning elsewhere for comfort or joy, it might be a good opportunity to ask yourself why.
5) You can’t forgive them.
Whether it’s infidelity or other significant issues, if your marriage seems to have hit a roadblock, you may have to ask yourself if you can get past it. If you don’t feel like you can forgive your spouse or stay married to someone who has wronged you, it’s likely that the marriage won’t be able to survive.
Divorce is a complicated process and it’s a decision that naturally comes after much deliberation. However, if several items on this list feel relevant to your life and you find yourself in need of a divorce, Shah & Kishore can help. Our Maryland divorce lawyers are dedicated to helping our clients achieve a smooth and peaceful separation.