How To Effectively Use Technology Within a Relationship

It’s tempting to think life was easier back in 1985 when home phones and handwritten letters were the only way to connect. The reality is that there is a lot you can do with all the technology tools at your disposal and opportunities to connect with your partner. It’s all in how you use them. The following are tips for incorporating technology effectively into a relationship:

1. Don’t let it become a distraction. When you’re with your partner, be sure to be present. If you’re having a conversation, put away your phone. Some couples make rules when it comes to technology, such as phones don’t come with them to bed.

2. Don’t let screen time take away from face time. A lot of couples text one another during the day and, while that can be an effective way to boost communication, don’t use it as an excuse not to engage in face-to-face conversation. According to the February 2014 Pew Research Study, 25% of text messaging users have texted their partner while both were home together! There’s no replacement for eye contact.

3. Think before you text/post/message. With so many social media platforms and messaging options at our disposal, it’s easy to send a text or post a status without much thought. Messages can be easily misinterpreted and cause a problem when none existed. Taking a few minutes to think through a message or post can prevent issues later.

4. Find ways to bond through technology. Whether it’s video chatting while separated by distance or sharing pictures or thoughts from your day, there are many different ways to positively impact your relationship with technology. It can increase intimacy by making partners more available and expanding ways to connect.

Talking with your partner about the ways technology has positively impacted your relationship and how it has been a negative presence is an important step towards using it well and reaping the benefits of a closer connection.